Dear Abby: Can I speak now? Verbal violence tormented the brother’s marriage to his death day

Dear Abby: My brother died of cancer a year ago. Throughout her 50 -year wedding, I felt bad about how his wife was treating him. She broke her and bit her head when they first got married until his death, even while he was dying. I never heard about it hard in return.

I kept my mouth closed because I didn’t want to worsen things for him. She was a relaxed, warm and fun person who was loved by many throughout his life. Now that he’s gone, I would really like to talk to my room to my sister-in-law. I think it would help me to heal to finally say what should be said but I could never. I don’t care that it can end my relationship with her. There are two now adult children, one of whom I am very close. Your thoughts?

– in conflict in iowa

Dear conflict: If you do what you plan, it will probably end your relationship with at least one of your brother’s children. Before approaching your brother’s widow, chat with the adult child with whom you are close. Explain how to look at your brother being verbally abused by his wife, even on his deathbed, made you feel. Let’s say that you do not want to lose the close relationship that you appreciate with him, but that now, for your own healing of the loss of your brother, you finally intend to disseminate these feelings to their mother. Because you don’t plan to have something more to do with the woman, you can say your mind.

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